Table of Contents
- Why is it important as a Christian Family?
- What God says about losing a baby?
- What is a Bible verse for miscarriage?
- What are some encouraging words for miscarriage?
- What are some worship songs for comfort during miscarriage?
- The three best things loved ones did for me during my miscarriage
As I sit down to write this blog post, it has been almost six years since I found out I was pregnant with our second child, Quinn. From the moment I had that positive pregnancy test, my heart filled with so much love and joy towards this little life growing inside me, but my husband and my hearts were shattered as we miscarried sweet Quinn around 10 weeks of pregnancy. I wish that I wasn’t a part of the 1 in 4 statistic, and my heart breaks knowing that others go through the loss of a baby. If you are going through a miscarriage or someone you love is walking through one, keep reading as I share Words of Comfort and Scripture for Miscarriage that helped my husband and I navigate through the pain, grief and healing of our miscarriage.
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Why is it important as a Christian Family?
First, if you are reading this and going through a miscarriage, I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could sit with you, cry with you and hug you.
Your baby’s life matters, and your feelings matter. It is important for Christians going through loss to cry out to God for comfort, peace and healing. Loss hurts, but God is with you in the pain.
When you are ready, I strongly encourage you to name your sweet little baby and celebrate their life in a meaningful way.
Second, if you are reading this because someone you love is going through a miscarriage, please remember that you get a beautiful opportunity to be the hands and feet of Jesus to them in one of the most difficult seasons they will go through.
Your job is not to comfort them with your words, but with your presence. Support them by listening, folding laundry, bringing a meal and mourning with them.
When your loved one is ready, it is important to celebrate and to continue the memory of their baby with them.
What God says about losing a baby?
God doesn’t say anything in the Bible directly about losing a baby, but I can say that God truly cares about each life that He formed in a mother’s womb. In Psalms 139:13 it says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.”
We can know based on this verse that God created the life growing in a mother’s womb and knit that baby together for however long they lived. He loves each child that is created.
The Bible also tells us in Colossians 1:16 this: “For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him.”
We may never know on this side of heaven why a miscarriage happened, but what we do know is that God created that sweet life, knit that babe together and has a plan for their life…even if that life never took a breath of air.
In my experience, God has seen me through the worst of the grief and has allowed me the honor of walking with many other women who are experiencing a miscarriage. My sweet Quinn is making an impact for God’s Kingdom by shaping my life to be more aware, sensitive and understanding in the areas of fertility, miscarriage and child loss.
What is a Bible verse for miscarriage?
When we experienced our miscarriage, I had a close mentor and friend send me comforting Bible verses through text every couple of days. These Bible verses would turn my attention to God who was there to comfort me. Here are some scripture for miscarriage that will help bring comfort and peace.
Scripture for Miscarriage: For Comfort
Psalm 34:18-19:
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. The righteous person may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all
Psalms 73:26
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
Lamentations 3:19-24
I remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and the gall. I well remember them, and my soul is downcast within me. Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope:
Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.”
Matthew 5:4
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Isaiah 66:13
As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.
Revelation 21:4
He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.
2 Corinthians 1:3-7
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.
Psalms 23:4
Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
Scripture for Miscarriage: For Healing
Psalm 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Matthew 11:28-30
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
Scripture for Miscarriage: Future Pregnancies
Isaiah 41:10
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.
John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Philippians 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
What are some encouraging words for miscarriage?
If a loved one is going through a miscarriage, the best encouraging words you can use are no words at all.
I know that sounds crazy, but the ministry of presence (aka the gift of you being present as a listening ear and a support in tangible ways) is so impactful.
The best encouragement you can offer is your presence, your listening ear and your help.
Offering to bring a meal, to watch their other children, to clean/fold laundry and to run errands can mean more to someone who is walking through a miscarriage than any words you can offer.
If you are really wanting to offer encouraging words, using the scripture for miscarriage that is listed above can be some of the most encouraging words you can use.
Also, encouraging words sound like “I am praying for comfort and healing” or “I am so sorry for your loss. How can I be a support for you?”
Please refrain from offering things that require your loved one to reach out. For example, “Let me know how I can help” or “Reach out if you need anything.” When someone is going through such loss and grief, they most likely will not reach out. Your comforting words should be more direct.
Instead, use words like “What day can I bring you a meal?” and “How specifically can I be praying for you?”
Lastly, here are some things that were said to me that hurt so deeply that I just highly recommend avoiding all together:
-Something must have been wrong with your baby which is why you miscarried.
-God must have needed your baby in heaven more than you needed it here.
-When are you going to try again?
-When are you going to schedule your DNC?
-Your daughter really needs another sibling.
There might be truth and well intentions in the above questions, but honestly, they are still painful to hear in the midst of a miscarriage.
If you are asking questions to get clarity for yourself or offering advice that reminds your loved one of the grief they are experiencing, it is probably something that should not be said at all. Stick to comforting words and scripture for miscarriage help.
What are some worship songs for comfort during miscarriage?
Besides reading scripture for miscarriage, music was really impactful to me in helping me process my loss and grief.
Here are links to some of my favorite songs for miscarriage:
I Just Need U by Toby Mac
So Will I by Hillsong
Take Courage by Kristene DiMarco
Tell Your Heart to Beat Again by Danny Gokey
The Garden by Kari Jobe
Each one of these songs really helped me to cling to Jesus during the pits of despair that I felt after my miscarriage.
The three best things loved ones did for me during my miscarriage
Over the few months after we lost our sweet baby, I had three really impactful things that different family and friends did to help me through the gift and sadness of my miscarriage. Besides sending me Scripture for miscarriage through texts, here are the three best things that someone did for me. Maybe you can use these ideas to help jump start your thoughts for supporting a loved one.
- We were supposed to move the day after we found out our Quinn no longer had a heartbeat. One of my coworkers who heard about our situation showed up at our house with a truck and trailer to help us move.
He stayed all day, packed things up, lifted heavy boxes and drove our stuff to our new house. We didn’t ask him to do this, but the gesture was such a blessing to us in the midst of heartache. - My sister-in-law sent me an article that talks about how Your baby’s DNA will always live inside of you.
A portion of the fetal cells of any babies remain in the mother long after they’ve left her body. This includes any and every pregnancy, whether it ended in miscarriage or resulted in a live and healthy birth. These cells often go on to help the mother by turning themselves into muscle cells to make the heart stronger, or liver cells, or even become neurons.
You can read more about it here, but this simple gesture gave me such peace that I will carry my baby with me forever. - Lastly, a sweet friend who is insanely gifted at art made me an ornament for my Christmas tree. She painted a picture of a swaddled baby with wings and our little one’s name on it. I cherish this ornament, and it always takes front and center of my tree each year.
I pray that this post on scripture of miscarriage was helpful for you and that God draws near to you if you are going through a miscarriage or walking with someone going through a miscarriage. There are so many other things I would love to say, but then this would turn into a book lol.
If you ever need someone to chat with about miscarriage and miscarriage support, please do not hesitate to reach out even if we don’t know each other in real life.
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